Relationship expert Paul C. Brunson has shared his thoughts on why closure chats are important after a breakup – after Tasha Ghouri said she hopes she can have one with her ex Andrew Le Page
Traditionally, a breakup means you’ve ended the relationship and will never speak to your ex again – so why are people now so adamant on a “closure” chat?
A closure chat is typically when a couple who have recently broken up, meet up and talk about the breakup, offering the chance to get feelings off their chest, and accept the relationship is done and dusted. A study, published in the Sage Journal Emerging Adulthood, shows that those who gain this understanding of why the relationship broke down will experience less inner turmoil during and after the breakup.
However closure chats cause mixed opinions, with some thinking it’s just an excuse to talk to an ex with the hopes of getting back together. But relationship expert Paul C Brunson has said it is a good chance to be able to move on properly.
Love Island star Tasha Ghouri recently spoke to Rylan Clark on his podcast Rylan: How to Be in Love, where she admitted she never had the “closure chat” with her ex Andrew Le Page. Tasha and Andrew met in the famous dating show villa, and were together for nearly three years before they called it quits earlier this year.
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The couple had bought a house together in 2024 and even shared a dog, but their relationship slowly broke down over the years. Now Tasha has spoken out about their split to Rylan, where she said they never had the “closing chapter”.
The strictly star said: “He was the first boy I was in love with. I learned so much from him and he taught me so much about love and I will take that with me.” However, Tasha said it was “weird” that they didn’t have the closing chapter.
She continued: “You know when you have that last chat and you have that closure? We didn’t have that,” and said she feels like it’s still “lingering”. Tasha confessed to Rylan she thinks one day they will have the chat and hopes when things are settled they can get back in touch and find “civil-ness” between them.
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Paul, who is an expert on the dating show Married At First Sight, as well as Tinder’s Global Relationship Expert told Daily Mirror: “Closure isn’t about dragging up old drama, it’s about giving yourself permission to move on properly. It’s a chance to get clarity, say your piece, and leave the relationship with some emotional loose ends tied up.”
He said it’s a chance for you to have a “clean slate” for the future and closure “helps draw a clear line between your past and your present, so you can show up with real intent and emotional clarity.” In 2025, emotional availability is one of the top qualities singles are seeking – with 30% naming it as a key trait in potential matches.
Having the chat is doesn’t mean you’re then ready to date again afterwards, Paul said “it’s also about showing that you value your own wellbeing” and concluded: “So before you jump back into the dating pool, take a beat. Have the chat and say what you need to say. It’s not just about looking back, it’s about giving yourself the space to move forward, with confidence and clarity. Your next match will thank you for it.”
Source: Mirror
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