Life coach and bestselling author Michelle Elman has shared her honest verdict Brooklyn Beckham’s statement, saying it’s truly a “last resort” for the 26-year-old
Brooklyn Beckham issued a statement on his Instagram stories on Monday (January 19), explaining why he’d taken the decision to cut ties with his mum, Victoria Beckham, and dad, David Beckham. The 26-year-old explained claimed had “no choice” but to put across his side of the story, accusing his parents of lying.
“I do not want to reconcile with my family. I’m not being controlled, I’m standing up for myself for the first time in my life. For my entire life, my parents have controlled narratives in the press about our family. The performative social media posts, family events and inauthentic relationships have been a fixture of the life I was born into,” he wrote.
In the statement, which spanned several Instagram stories, he also accused mum and former Spice Girl Victoria of ‘hijacking’ his first dance at his wedding to Nicola Peltz, saying: “She danced very inappropriately on me in front of everyone”.
And while the internet has been divided about who is in the ‘right,’ life coach and author Michelle Elman has praised Brooklyn Beckham for being brave and decisive. Michelle said that she was worried he was “going to get slammed even harder than he already has” for speaking out rather than staying silent.
“We’ve seen it happen with Adam Peaty not inviting his mum to his wedding, we’ve seen it with Meghan Markle when she didn’t invite her dad to her wedding, we’ve seen it with Oprah, recently creating a documentary, saying how cutting out family members is a new trend. It’s not a new trend,” Michelle said.
She continued: “I don’t know a single person who has ever resorted to this without it being truly a last resort after years and years of trying to create new boundaries, healthier dynamics, and really wanting it to work out in any other way.
“The main thing I want to say is that if you don’t understand why someone would cut out their family, be grateful you don’t understand. You can only understand if you are in a family dynamic like that.
“And the people who don’t understand and go ‘Oh I could never not talk to my mother,’ it’s because you don’t have the kind of mother you wouldn’t want to talk to!”
Michelle claimed that Brooklyn wanted to “create distance and create space” from his “enmeshed family unit” because they’d overstepped his “boundaries” multiple times, but people see this as a “betrayal” and Nicola is “blamed” for this.
She also said that this realisation that his relationship with his parents wasn’t “healthy” was because he’s seen “another family up close,” which may have led to some soul searching from Brooklyn. “So for your family unit, it’s a lot easier for them to blame your new spouse rather than take accountability,” Michelle continued, saying it’s “never an easy decision” to cut someone off, explaining it often takes “years if not decades to finally cut someone out”.
She captioned her video: “It takes so much bravery to step away from a family system knowing you are going to be the scapegoat. It’s a last resort when it comes to boundary setting but sometimes a necessary one and the only one that they will take seriously. If you can’t understand how someone stops speaking to their family, be glad you don’t understand.
“No one chooses no contact as a first option. It’s not impulsive. It’s not trendy. It’s what happens after years, sometimes decades of trying everything else.
Source: Mirror
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