The singer looked back on her four marriages and what went wrong with them
Jennifer Lopez doesn’t think she’s ever been loved as she looks back on her failed marriage to Ben Affleck. The four-times married actress and singer mused over her relationship history in a candid interview.
Shifting the blame on to the men she has fallen in and out of love with, she said they had their own issues they were battling. It comes after her surprise divorce earlier this year. US chat show host Howard Stern asked “Have you ever been loved?’ “No,” Jennifer, 56, admitted.
She continued: “What I learned is that I’m not unloveable, it’s that they’re not capable. They don’t have it in them. They need to appreciate the little person inside of them. They gave me what they had. They gave me all of it all the time. They tried to give me the houses, the rings, all of it. But… ” “They didn’t love you?” prompted Stern. “They didn’t,” Jen answered. “And I didn’t love myself.”
J.Lo finalised her divorce with Affleck, 53, in January after just two and half years of marriage. The Hollywood power couple surprised the world when they announced they were marrying almost twenty years after first falling in love. They reunited in 2021, married at a Las Vegas chapel in July 2022, followed by a second ceremony in Georgia the following month. But it wasn’t to be, with the Jenny From The Block singer filing for divorce on their second wedding anniversary.
Their marriage was unravelling as the pair worked on a musical remake of the 1976 novel Kiss of the Spider Woman together but the pair but their differences to one side for the premiere this month, proving they were the friendliest of exes, and even sparkling speculation there could be a reconciliation on the cards.
If there was, J-Lo says she’ll be keeping her cards close to her chest this time and vowed not play out her love life in public. “I feel that I live my life very out loud even though I was in the public eye,” she told Stern on his Sirius XM show. “And I wanted to share my life with someone. I want someone to be there when I’m having my big important moments on my red carpet. Or if we’re going to the store. I didn’t hide from it, I spoke about it. What’s happened over the past few years to me and my children I feel like I want to keep that part so much more quiet in my life.”
A self-confessed romantic, Jennifer has been married and divorced four times and engaged twice more. She married to Cuban actor Ojani Noa in 1997 but it was short-lived, with the pair divorcing the following year. Then she was married to dancer Cris Judd from 2001 to 2003. Good Will Hunting star Ben met singer Jen in 2002 on the set of their movie, Gigli. Married to Judd at the time, Jennifer said she felt sparks immediately with Ben. They soon got engaged but postponed their wedding in 2003 and split the following year.
Both moved on, with Ben marrying another Jen, 13 Going On 30 actress Jennifer Garner. They have children Violet, 19, Fin, 16, and Sam, 13. In the meantime, J-Lo walked down the aisle with singer Marc Anthony. They had twins Max and Emma, now 17. They divorced in 2014 three years after departing. J-Lo was engaged to baseball player Alex Rodriguez in 2019 before they called it quits in 2021. Ben and Jen married a year later.
Accepting some responsibility for the breakdown in her relationships. Jen says she’s learnt how to love herself through it all. “There’s a trade off,” she explained. “You have to learn how to navigate your personal life and my personal life has suffered because of that. And it took time for me to learn this. I kept thinking, I can do this and that. And now I realise you have to change your behaviour to have a successful relationship in your life.
“I think the work of my life is about self love. It’s about knowing I’m worthy of love and people. Paying attention to me and not leaving. That’s the work of my love, to know I’m whole on my own.”
Source: Mirror
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