Jeff Brazier has had a testing year – featuring the collapse of his marriage to Kate Dwyer and with drama involving his sons Bobby and Freddy. But he says he is learning from his experiences.
Jeff Brazier has declared he is “becoming the man I want to be” following a testing year which saw his marriage collapse and his relationship with his sons become strained. The 46-year-old reality star split from 35-year-old Kate Dwyer in the summer – but they didn’t confirm their break-up until last month.
And further family drama has unfolded after Jeff feuded with his son Freddy Brazier, 21, over how much time he was spending with his grandmother Jackiey Budden, the mother of late Big Brother star Jade Goody. The Shipwrecked star’s other son, Bobby Brazier, 22, has also reportedly distanced himself from the star amid the family tensions.
Taking to Instagram on Boxing Day, the TV star reflected on his recent changes – and informed followers that he was learning to grow as a person amid all the turmoil. Sharing slides of a setting sun amid tree branches, Jeff opened up to those following the finer details of his life.
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He wrote: “Feeling incredibly reflective and just sent this to a friend and wanted to share. My outlook is I’m used to carrying the heavy stuff and I honestly believe I can do that and thrive at the same time. Life will always push and pull it’s just at this point, the lessons are only making me more resourced and capable.”
Jeff went on: “I’m at the point of pure gratitude for the tough stuff because it has shown me how to become truly safe for anyone that needs me and that’s the man I want to be.”
And he continued on a second slide: “Why is being safe so important? Firstly when you come from a background of trauma in whichever form safety isn’t so easily found just because you’re in a new environment it’s a long hard road to creating it within yourself so that we don’t run those old trauma responses for the rest of our lives.
“Keeping people in your life safe as a man isn’t just a physical act of protection and when vulnerability and instability are in play everything becomes about holding space, providing an outlet, keeping the lines of communication open without judgement and giving the gentle truth when it’s being overlooked.
“I think being safe also requires an acceptance of the things we don’t control without trying to lead or fix. I don’t have to be the solutiion, I just need to be a constant and it’s taken me a while to give myself permission for this but it’s ok that I’m ok at times when somebody I love is going through something difficult. Ready to support but most importantly capable of coping.”
Jeff also hinted that he has patched things up with his sons when delivering a festive message on Christmas Day. Sharing a mirror selfie on Instagram Stories, he wrote: “Happy Christmas wonderful people. The boys and I shared it with my mum and brother, walks, naps, food, games and films. I hope you’ve had a lovely day too.”
Recently, Jeff opened up about his failed marriage – confirming last month that he and Kate had gone their separate ways earlier in the year. He wrote in an emotional statement: “I’m so full of love and gratitude for Kate.
“For all we achieved, for how much we grew, for everything we endured. We separated in the Summer and kept it private for as long as we could to give us some time to adjust. For 12 years we have been each others safe space, each others biggest supporters at a time when our lives have been busy, painful & complex.
“I’m so proud of how hard we worked, how we kept showing up, we gave everything and more. I’m also so full of respect and admiration for the successful career Kate has built and the way she cared for me unconditionally. It’s credit to the woman she is that she still checks in to ask how the boys are doing because she is so invested in their lives.”
Last month, Kate appeared to make reference to her marriage woes – while partying in Vegas with friends. In a social media post, she wrote: “Just an update: SIX PLANETS ARE IN RETROGRADE, so that’s why.” And she went on to share footage from raunchy club nights out – with women receiving lap dances from exotic dancers while onlookers cheered on.
Source: Mirror
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